Let’s Talk Self Harm: Knowing The Signs

This topic might be triggering for some. I won’t be talking about the types of self-harm, just listing the signs that a person may be hurting themselves based on my own experience with the subject matter.
It has been something I have had issues with on and off for a decade. 
There is no shame in reaching out for help, there are many people and services who will be there for you.

As mentioned in my disclaimer, I unfortunately have struggled with self harm, while it is out and public now, I went unnoticed for the longest time. It came out I was struggling with self harm when my sister happened to walk into my bedroom and saw the aftermath of a horrible day. She was really supportive, I just felt, and still feel awful about it.

I hid them quite well up until that point, so I feel like I need to share this information in the hopes someone else can notice the signs, and possibly help someone who could be struggling.

Of course, these things might not apply to everyone, but it is always good to have an idea, and it’s better to be wrong than the aftermath of self harm.

Wearing long clothes regardless of the weather
I would always cover my body up with long clothes, even in the summer. In the winter, it is all so easy to do this without raising any suspicion.
But in the summer? This could mean that they have an injury or an injury that is healing hidden beneath the layers. Of course, this could be insecurity too for other reasons, but keep an eye on this behaviour, there could be something going on.

Constant itching in the same spots
People started to become more suspicious I was hurting myself when I would constantly scratch the same part of my body, from experience, when my injuries would heal, they would itch constantly. This also irritated the inflicted area a lot more, causing me more pain and discomfort.

Withdrawing and isolating behaviour
This is common with pretty much all depressive disorders, but it is very important that it isn’t overlooked in any situation. I never wanted to be caught out because I didn’t want to hurt or disappoint the people I love.
This, coupled with depression in general, I just spent a lot of time on my own, I wouldn’t respond to any messages, all I wanted was  to be alone, how could I burden anybody if I was alone.

Expressing the need to punish themselves
This was something I’d talk about often, the reason I started hurting myself was because I had been hurt, again, by a person who constantly let me down and made me feel worthless, to put that mildly.
They made me so angry with myself for falling for their behaviour over and over, I just started taking it out on myself.
serving of all sorts of bad things and punishments for feeling the way I did, rather than taking a step back to realise that I was not to blame, all I did was trust someone who claimed to have changed.

There is a lot more to self harm than what I have listed, this is just what I went through.
It is very important that self harm is noticed and dealt with, people can really hurt themselves when they are feeling low. It is important to get in touch with a professional who can recommend the best course of action.



  1. I’m sorry you were made to feel so poorly. You are worth so much more than whatever that person said or did. I hope you are doing better now and winning against this struggle more frequently ❤ I can't deny that I've self-harmed some in the past as well on an infrequent basis, so I understand a little bit. Don't be afraid to reach out if you're ever having a bad day!



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